Let me tell you first of all that planning an actual wedding when your fiancé is in the military is a rare thing. There are plenty of reasons why couples do this: to save money, their fiancé is deploying soon, to get the health insurance quicker, to make more money, don’t want the hassle, for convenience, etc. I’m sure there are plenty of more reasons that I can’t think of now. Honestly though, it’s just important that the couple is on the same page. The Sailor has always been very traditional, so I knew he would want a traditional wedding. He even wore a tux instead of his uniform. And I wanted to have a real wedding too. Since he was deploying soon, I knew I would have to plan while he was gone and set the date so far ahead I knew he would make it. But that was pretty much understood between the two of us. Never once did we ask ourselves whether or not we should have a real wedding. So I guess we were on the same page from the start. And that’s really all that’s important.
That all being said, if you are marrying someone in the military and planning an actual wedding, you are most definitely the minority. I’ve only met two couples that had the actual traditional wedding.
Wedding planning is tough though. I’m sure any bride can attest to that. I had no idea what I was getting into, and I think that since I didn’t have a dream wedding idea from my youth, I didn’t know where to start. When I was working full time and planning the wedding I used to call it my second job. It was a joke at first, but turned out to be very true. Most waking moments that weren’t spent at work or sending care packages (for the first 6 months) were spent meeting with my mom or vendors or doing wedding research to figure out what I wanted (some of the most important questions!). And it’s one hell of an education into weddings, especially since I’ve never been in one, and I was the first in my family to get married. We’ve all learned a lot since then. And this may be a no duh statement, but weddings are expensive!
Me after realizing how stressed I was going to be for the next 1.5 years
After it was all said and done though, I wouldn’t change a thing. I loved everything about my wedding even the crazy mishaps like the cake being delivered to another venue and the groomsmen having to steal it back. It’s so true what they say about it going by so quickly and actually missing all of the planning. You’ve got to try and enjoy every moment of it because you’re only going to have this day once. My wedding was perfect and everything I thought it could be. I have the perfect photos and memories to remember it by forever and now I have a wonderful husband to share my life with, which in the end, is really all that matters.