Everyone's list may be different, but here's what has helped me get through this lifestyle ;)
1. Wine – for all the things you cannot change.
2. Chocolate - for when things don't go your way and you need to eat.
3. Pencils with erasers – for changing dates in calendars, getting rid of plans, writing in new plans. Just throw away all your pens.
4. Cell phone – just for the social media alone, but our phones actually call people too! It’s a great way to stay in contact your family and friends (and also sometimes your SO).
5. Netflix – because binge watching Friends works wonders when you’re sad. Because they’ll always “be there for you.” Get it??
6. A sense of humor – when things are hard, you need to try and find the humor in life.
7. A support system – whether it be family, friends, coworkers or a mix of all, it’s good to have support near and far for when things get tough.
8. Good communication – between you and your significant other. I cannot tell you how many arguments we have had because someone wasn’t clear about something and it got misinterpreted. Plans have been screwed up, trips have become stressful and meals are sometimes hectic, all because we didn’t say exactly what we meant or sometimes didn’t say anything at all. COMMUNICATION IS KEY. We haven’t been married very long, but it’s something all couples can probably still work on.
9. Flexibility – this one is hard for me. If you’re one of those easy-going people, I’m very jealous of you. Time and time again, I have had to change our plans or cancel something, which is a key part of military life. And it’s still very hard for me, but I’m working at it.
10. Hobbies – it’s a great way to stay busy! Whether it’s duty day, or you’re in a deployment, or you just need to de-stress, your hobby can be a great way to do that. If you have multiple hobbies like me, you can stress over which one you want to do that day and the ones you never get to ;)
11. A sense of adventure – milso life is not for the faint of heart. But if you go with the flow, it can be very rewarding and can take you to new places you’ve never been and meet people you never would have in the civilian world.